An October Weekend & Remindersย 

Had a pretty packed weekend. And some reminders and reflections, may it be of benefit!

Empower yourself with knowledge. Seek knowledge and always be learning even if you may have to travel a little bit far. Renew your intentions. At the same time, remind yourself that it’s always adab first before knowledge. Keep a check on yourself and your heart. Istighfar always for our sins are so plenty we’ve no time to criticise or judge others.

Get a hold of yourself when you start to think ill of someone.
By the way, I’m not sure if you know about this peeling gel in the market. It gets rid of your dead skin cells, whiteheads etc. I recently used it and it’s so good. Your face would feel so so clean afterwards and I can’t help but think, if only it is this easy to cleanse our hearts eh ๐Ÿ’” Guess this is our jihad then. Our ongoing struggle and fight to continously cleanse our hearts and better our character.

People will disappoint you, time and time again. Plans will not go as planned. Don’t dwell on it. It may be that you dislike it but it’s good for you. Move on.

Nothing is quite as attractive as a passionate person. Someone may be average-looking to the majority but I personally find that if he or she speaks and exudes positivity and love through what he or she does and believe in, that’s truly beautiful. Through a mental health training I attended yesterday, I saw some really passionate, knowledgeable and sincere doctor, counsellors, caregivers. So much love/passion/enthusiasm, so much life. Inspiring alhamdulillah.

Wanted to attend a talk on manners by al-Maghrib but I only got to know about it on the event day so it was too late. The day after, a dear friend shared with me her notes! How did she know?? Allah knows. And Allah send these beautiful souls. Allah suprises us in beautiful ways, we just have to notice..

What you focus on, expands.

If you’re reading this, may Allah swt ease your affairs and may you have a blessed week ahead ๐Ÿ™‚

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KL Learning Excursion #1

A few days ago, I came back from KL for a learning excursion under Pergas. It was a really enjoyable and meaningful trip alhamdulillah. We visited several places including the International Islamic University Malaysia, TV Al-Hijrah broadcast centre, Islamic Arts Museum and Yayasan al-Jenderami.

Firstly, I’m especially thankful and excited for this opportunity because I was supposed to go to KL few months back with some of my family members. There was a book fair so no doubt I wanted to go. And of course to shop heh. But I was down with mild food poisoning the day before and I couldn’t make it. QadrAllahu masha Fa’al (Allah has decreed it and what He willed has happened). Kept telling myself Allah knows best.

Indeed. Who would’ve thought that a few months later an opportunity would arise that would allow me to go? And in fact, for more purposes than just shopping and books? I wouldn’t have known. If we would only wait and just be a little patient, what surprises would Allah have for us? If we would just chill a little and don’t be too upset that we don’t get what we want when we wanted it? For all you know, He is delaying it to a time that’s better, in fact, He will give you more than you expected. And this is just Sg-KL guys haha. Also, this is just concerning matters of the dunya. Imagine the immense and unimaginable rewards that awaits us if we just bore patience for the things that we think are withheld from us when in fact He is giving us? SubhanAllah really. A reminder to myself firstly. May Allah swt grant us the wisdom and clarity in our journey to Him.

Will share more pictures and takeaways from the trip on the next post insyaAllah.

Let go.

Let go. Let go of the need to be correct. Let go of the need to protect your ego. Let go of your assumptions of others which may very well be untrue. Let go of the victim mindset trap. Let go of your expectation that people should act and behave as how they should do to you. Remember it’s not always about you. Sometimes it’s their problem and it’s nothing personal. Well, maybe I’m right about my presumptions after all. Maybe I do feel the need to prove my point because I cannot bear to admit my own mistake. But my heart is so much more precious than all that and I need to protect it. Protect it from growing seeds of suspicion, animosity etc.

I’m reminded of the quote by Omar Suleiman that goes something like I’d rather come on the day of judgement having thought good of an evil person rather than thinking that a good person is evil. We may be wrong with our assumptions but it doesn’t hurt to at least try and make an excuse for them.. Whatever it is.

To work on your heart start with these seemingly small things that are, indeed huge. #heartwork 

The best things in life are sometimes..

Unexpected and/or spontaneous. So if you have a sudden thought or idea or opportunity before you, don’t just let it slide! Pursue it!

Last week, I went to Coney Island with my ex-colleagues just by planning a few days before when we have actually planned for several months when I was still working there but we never get to do it. As impromptu as it was, it was great alhamdulillah. And this is a big thing for me, for someone who’s big on prior planning and the need for details.

A few days ago, I met up with Nabs and we went to have a ‘picnic’ at guess where, the carpark rooftop. And I had my first successful attempt at skateboarding as much as I never expected/planned to do it. Turns out I absolutely loved the new experiences hehe.

You know how you look at some people and think to yourself this one just has it all together. You can’t help to think, she/he is so fine/so smart/so kind/so pretty/so fortunate/so mashaAllah and the list goes on, what could possibly go wrong in his/her life? She/he seems so well-off how could she be in a position of pain or to even talk about pain? For one, perception. What they show builds your perception. And what you don’t actually see? So much.

Second, you’re not the only going through some pain/struggle. Other people are too. Even ‘them’. Just because you don’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not there. So don’t feel bad about yourself. Or don’t feel bad about yourself for not being “brave” or “vulnerable” enough to share your pain/story on social media etc. What may be easy for some may be challenging for you. And vice versa. So don’t put yourself down by undermining yourself or whatever you’re going through. The pain you feel is VALID. Your struggles are VALID. Even if no one knows them. Coz you’ve got Allah. We’ve got Allah.

At the same time, learn to share with worthy others.
Remember, you don’t have to share with everyone to feel validated or to feel Heard. Some share with their best friends but for me I’ve no particular ‘best friend’ because I don’t believe in that term. I do have a couple of close/good/special friends I can trust insyaAllah. And may I always remember that. That I do matter. I am worthy of much love. And you are, too. ๐ŸŒน๐Ÿ’•

On Deadlines & Saying No

Earlier in the evening today I just realised I had missed the deadline for a small part of my school assignment by 2 days! Imagine my shock and denial. I had read through the whole assignment but had truly missed the deadline for the first part. Alhamdulillah I set myself on it tonight and I managed to get it done even though it’s super-late. I emailed my tutor too in hopes he will pardon me and give me a pass, at least. I really hope!

But I shan’t dwell on it too much, as it was a genuine mistake and there’s no point being too upset over it. It’s not the worst that can happen and I still have the chance to make it right for the second part of the assignment- the thousand word essay. 

And I hope to always remember this. That I may make mistakes sometimes but what’s important is what I do about it. That I will own up to it, try my best to make it right, learn from it and pray to Allah to ease my affairs. 

May Allah ease. And I can do this. 

Also, it dawned on me that I have two essay assignments due within several days which brought me to say no. No to supposed plans over the weekend and my plan to finish doing up the cards for a small project for some sisters. It kinda sucks because you wish you can do them all but this is it, a lesson for me ultimately from Allah. To prioritise and choose wisely and make sure I can allocate my all to all that I intend to do.