Heart Therapy Talk @ Jamiyah ar-Rabitah Mosque

The past Sunday I attended the above talk with my dear A, alhamdulillah it was a beneficial afternoon. Can’t be more timely, to talk about the heart, especially since it’s been more than a month since Ramadhan left. These are some personal takeaways I managed to note down:

First part of the talk was by Ustazah Shameem Sultanah. The ABC model-

The ABC model-

  • A being Adversity, something that you cannot change yet this A is meant for you.
  • B stands for Beliefs, where they can either be positive or negative. We can choose between these 2, no matter the adversity. Positive beliefs stem from a strong connection/rope with Allah swt, that is to think well of Allah no matter what our circumstances are or whatever that happens to us. From that rope, we also have ropes and connections with people and things. These can be our attachments too, which we need to cut because they can hinder us from having a sole attachment to Allah.
  • C stands for consequences. This can also be positive or negative, as this is a result of our beliefs. So we can actually change our outcome(insyaAllah) if we just change our beliefs.

How to change our beliefs? It’s important to monitor our self-talk.

  1. Listen to our self-talk. Put away our phone at times and just don’t do anything.
  2. Be quiet, look around and monitor the things you tell yourself. Is it positive or negative?
  3. If it’s negative, redirect and change it to positive.

Think positively of people(creations), think positively of the Creator -> Peace & serenity


Second part of the talk was by Ustazah Halimah Alaydrus titled Berhati-hatilah dengan hati (this part will be in Malay).

  • Allah swt tidak lihat kepada rupa kita tetapi pada hati kita, di mana letaknya hati kita.
  • Hati adalah pemimpin, baiknya ia, baiklah diri kita. Buruknya ia, buruklah diri kita nauzubillah.
  • Hati adalah tempat Allah tetapkan untuk segala yang baik seperti cinta dan iman.
  • Kebahagiaan terletak bukan pada benda luaran seperti harta, kecantikan atau kuasa tetapi terletak pada hati.
  • Goal kita? Untuk mendapatkan hati yang bersih.1- Bersihkan hati dengan istighfar, dan taubat. 2- Istiqamah dengan sentiasa mengingati Allah, consistent dalam ibadah, jauhkan penyakit hati. 3-Dekati orang-orang yang baik.

Moga kita tergolong dalam golongan yang mempunyai nafsu mutmainnah di mana Allah akan berkata pada hari Kiamat:

“Kembalilah kepada Tuhanmu dengan keadaan engkau berpuas hati (dengan segala nikmat yang diberikan) lagi diredhai (di sisi Tuhanmu) ! –

“Serta masuklah engkau dalam kumpulan hamba-hambaku yang berbahagia 

“Dan masuklah ke dalam SyurgaKu!”

-Surah al-Fajar: 28-30

How weak is man! 

I came to this conclusion by the time I finished reading the above paragraph of my Social Psychology textbook.

We humans are often, more than not, so prone to errors and lapses.. even in rationalising ours and other people’s behaviors. Like I learnt in the concept of fundamental attribution error, we usually attribute a person’s behavior either to their disposition or by the situational factors. It is said that people(mainly referring to Westerners but can be applied to others also) often do the former to other people. Then when it comes to ourselves, we defend ourselves attributing our behavior to the situation.

… And so is man, regardless of how intelligent and strong he perceives his human capacity.

May we seek knowledge for the right intentions and gain knowledge that benefits us and the people around us!