You Matter 

Mood: making my voice heard in my own way 
An instagram story of words, yet it’s me voicing my thoughts, projecting them out to the world

It’s a big deal to me, really

When I find myself engaging in comparison going down the downward spiral of “and then there’s me”

Stop, don’t do this to yourself. You need to control these negative thoughts, don’t let them get to you.

You’re better than this, stronger than this.

Yes I’m still figuring it out, to each and everyone their own battles
You either know because people share or you don’t because people keep it away from the public eye

And same goes with you too darling

Realising that where I am and where I want to be is a gap
Doesn’t mean I’m not making progress

Going back to the instagram story
Yes I have my own thoughts and opinions too
And they matter
Absolutely
I’m free to share them as long as it’s within the limits

I matter.

I am enough.

You are Enough.

“Regardless of who we are, how we were raised or what we believe, all of us fight hidden, silent battles against not being good enough, not having enough and not belonging enough. When we find the courage to share our experiences and the compassion to hear others tell their stories, we force shame out of hiding, and end the silence.”
– Brenè Brown

May our days ahead be of courage and strength, insyaAllah.

​”You’re too pretty to be single!”

“You’re too pretty to be single! Are you sure you’re single?”
A comment made on a sister’s instagram photo and caption about embracing singlehood while awaiting the right person to make their presence.

Reminds me of a similar remark I personally encountered with a colleague. Funny how I didn’t manage to say anything when the remark was made.

From my perspective, this person is indirectly implying that pretty girls should be attached. In other words, attractive people should be with someone.

I disagree to a person who perceives another person’s physical beauty as equitable to her value of being in a romantic relationship with a man. Will you ever hear you’re too smart to be single? You’re too kind to be single? I don’t mean to compare but I feel society has always deemed pretty, or rather physical attractiveness, as a sure ticket to the good things in life, including a partner.

Then what about the other girls who are not your typical society-deemed “pretty”? Not the fair-skin, big eyes, perfect teeth and the list goes on kind of pretty?
Are they not as equally worthy of being loved as well?
I believe we ladies, don’t realise or forget that, we are enough. Enough in the sense that, even though we have plenty of room for improvements in ourselves, we are lovable enough. We don’t need to be pretty enough, smart enough, rich enough, whatever. Because if you’re gonna engage in social comparison that way all the time, you’ll never be happy. And we all want to be happy right? So let’s learn everyday, to love, respect and embrace our unique qualities and idiosyncracies, to forgive ourselves for the times we fall short and to keep motivating ourselves to try again, work harder, be better, grow stronger. May we always strive to be attractive in the sight of God first ❤

I believe we live in a beauty culture that magnifies on perfection and precision(e.g. popular and ‘gorgeous’ photos all over social media etc.). So in the case of poor lighting, no makeup, unstrategic angles, are you able to accept and like yourself then? Do you love yourself enough to accept your flaws and less-than-perfect moments and still think you’re worthy and beautiful?

It’s one thing to want to have a nice picture. It’s another to obsess over getting the one best picture. Well, what beauty standards are we trying to live up to? 

Whatever that we potray to the world.. it is essentially, for show. But you know yourself best. May we be better looking in person and be good looking and beautiful because our hearts and souls are beautiful and content ameen. May we always be beautiful to our Creator, who created us in the best of forms.