I did the bravest thing in a long time today, alhamdulillah.
Came up and talked to this lovely sister whom I look up to. Even though I don’t know her personally but I have been following her writings on Instagram and her blog. (Pictures aren’t an accurate representations of people’s lives but their writings do a give a great glimpse on their thoughts, worldview, priorities, character etc.)
I love how she’s just so beautifully honest and wise in her writings on life, love, pain, self-improvement and many more. In one way or another, I can totally relate. Her everyday endeavors are inspirational too. May Allah swt bless and increase you in goodness and taqwa, dear kak. Hope to see you again soon insyaAllah 😘 (Do find her on ig: @thetudungtraveller! )
“You’re too pretty to be single! Are you sure you’re single?”
A comment made on a sister’s instagram photo and caption about embracing singlehood while awaiting the right person to make their presence.
Reminds me of a similar remark I personally encountered with a colleague. Funny how I didn’t manage to say anything when the remark was made.
From my perspective, this person is indirectly implying that pretty girls should be attached. In other words, attractive people should be with someone.
I disagree to a person who perceives another person’s physical beauty as equitable to her value of being in a romantic relationship with a man. Will you ever hear you’re too smart to be single? You’re too kind to be single? I don’t mean to compare but I feel society has always deemed pretty, or rather physical attractiveness, as a sure ticket to the good things in life, including a partner.
Then what about the other girls who are not your typical society-deemed “pretty”? Not the fair-skin, big eyes, perfect teeth and the list goes on kind of pretty?
Are they not as equally worthy of being loved as well?
I believe we ladies, don’t realise or forget that, we are enough. Enough in the sense that, even though we have plenty of room for improvements in ourselves, we are lovable enough. We don’t need to be pretty enough, smart enough, rich enough, whatever. Because if you’re gonna engage in social comparison that way all the time, you’ll never be happy. And we all want to be happy right? So let’s learn everyday, to love, respect and embrace our unique qualities and idiosyncracies, to forgive ourselves for the times we fall short and to keep motivating ourselves to try again, work harder, be better, grow stronger. May we always strive to be attractive in the sight of God first ❤