Dear Hopeful Singleton 🌹

Throwback to last Sat’s session with the amazing ladies above, Aida Azlin & Ustazah Liyana Musfirah. Below are my takeaways, may it be of benefit! 

Ustazah Liyana:

Know yourself

Who am I first?
Servant of Allah
Follower of Prophet pbuh
Khalifah fil ardh. Our words and actions equally preaching Islam
Daughter to your parents
Sister to your siblings

Hijrah: to a better me, to a better single version of myself

Doa when looking at yourself in the mirror

Polish your mind, body & soul and heart with knowledge and experience

We’re so blessed in the sense that we’ve got the time and space to work on our relationship with Allah swt

Aida Azlin:

Things I tell my single myself
🌸To be grateful for whatever Allah places you right now
Think about all the other aspects that Allah is taking care of for you now

🌸Cultivate an Optimistic mindset while waiting
Remind yourself
Be happy for those who gets married. Allah got their backs like He’s got yours

🌸Get to know the 3 VVIPs
*Marrying doesn’t solve all your problems
Allah.
Prophet Muhammad saw.
Yourself. Just think of 3 things you love about yourself.
You can’t have someone else in your life till you’re rock solid about yourself.
What is self-worthiness to you? Knowing that you’re deserving of the best because you’re created by the best Allah swt
Seek what’s best for you. The best company, the best experiences, you know you deserve nothing less than the best.

When you have self-worthiness you stop looking to other people to give you happiness.
This man is just gonna complement you not add you or subtract from you. You’re whole by yourself💕

Self worthiness is yours for the taking.
no one can give it you or take it from you.

You are capable of being the best
To be the best at what you do is a form of dakwah

🌸All states are temporary so don’t allow yourself to get too sad or too happy.

Waiting may not be fun but it is necessary.
The worship is in the waiting
The strengthening is in the waiting
The closeness to Allah is in the waiting
Waiting is part and parcel of life. Good things come to those who wait. This is dunya. Remember Allah got your back.

2 types of single person
First is the one who sits around and don’t really do anything to find the one. Complain only lol.
Second is the one makes the effort. Go out and meet people, seek help from parents/elders/friends. Make plenty of dua and lots of tawakkal. Like AA and Ustazah Liyana’s personal stories.
So which one are you? Not to say that marriage is a goal. It’s just a means. Like Aida said, you will somehow ‘know’ when you’re ready so if you really are then make the effort and dua + tawakkal. Otherwise, keep working on yourself and be of service to others and who knows along the way you just might meet the one😉

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Hijab & A Sister 

You see she takes it off
But you don’t know why she did
As painful as it is
This is not the time for you
To mention rulings
If it’s possible, ask
Understand
Don’t judge
Yes it’s wrong, and you should, deep down in your heart hate the act
Not her
But be mindful of your words
If you can’t say anything good then hush
Pray for her
Advice, if you need
But never, impose
Be gentle and careful with your words
For not only will be heavy on the receiver but also on the scales of the Day of Judgement
Seek to understand, and love
Always
💟

I Met TheTudungTraveller :)

I did the bravest thing in a long time today, alhamdulillah.

Came up and talked to this lovely sister whom I look up to. Even though I don’t know her personally but I have been following her writings on Instagram and her blog. (Pictures aren’t an accurate representations of people’s lives but their writings do a give a great glimpse on their thoughts, worldview, priorities, character etc.)

I love how she’s just so beautifully honest and wise in her writings on life, love, pain, self-improvement and many more. In one way or another, I can totally relate. Her everyday endeavors are inspirational too. May Allah swt bless and increase you in goodness and taqwa, dear kak. Hope to see you again soon insyaAllah 😘 (Do find her on ig: @thetudungtraveller! )

​”You’re too pretty to be single!”

“You’re too pretty to be single! Are you sure you’re single?”
A comment made on a sister’s instagram photo and caption about embracing singlehood while awaiting the right person to make their presence.

Reminds me of a similar remark I personally encountered with a colleague. Funny how I didn’t manage to say anything when the remark was made.

From my perspective, this person is indirectly implying that pretty girls should be attached. In other words, attractive people should be with someone.

I disagree to a person who perceives another person’s physical beauty as equitable to her value of being in a romantic relationship with a man. Will you ever hear you’re too smart to be single? You’re too kind to be single? I don’t mean to compare but I feel society has always deemed pretty, or rather physical attractiveness, as a sure ticket to the good things in life, including a partner.

Then what about the other girls who are not your typical society-deemed “pretty”? Not the fair-skin, big eyes, perfect teeth and the list goes on kind of pretty?
Are they not as equally worthy of being loved as well?
I believe we ladies, don’t realise or forget that, we are enough. Enough in the sense that, even though we have plenty of room for improvements in ourselves, we are lovable enough. We don’t need to be pretty enough, smart enough, rich enough, whatever. Because if you’re gonna engage in social comparison that way all the time, you’ll never be happy. And we all want to be happy right? So let’s learn everyday, to love, respect and embrace our unique qualities and idiosyncracies, to forgive ourselves for the times we fall short and to keep motivating ourselves to try again, work harder, be better, grow stronger. May we always strive to be attractive in the sight of God first ❤